Ever wonder why you aren’t hitting your goals, or why your business isn’t panning out quite as you’d hoped?
Do you ever find yourself doing any of the following:
- Putting off dealing with customer emails / messages
- Procrastinating on admin or business tasks
- Delaying creating or updating a website
- Getting stuck in perfection mode
- Writing a post 10 times over and struggling to hit the publish button
- Spending hours creating an article or blog post but not promoting it
- Changing your branding / logo (again) or struggling to decide in the first place
- Overthinking every social media post and ending up with no content
- Broken or outdated links on your website
- Reluctance to create an email list
- Hard to find payment links
- Re-inventing the wheel
Welcome to self sabotaging – which is quite simply when we deliberating hinder our own progress. Sounds crazy right – but we all do it.
I fell back into this trap quite recently, so I wanted to give you a reminder about what to look out for.
Whilst I have been guilty of many of the above over the years, I have worked really hard to shift some old mental programming and felt well on my path. Then a few weeks ago I found myself being really grumpy and snappy with my husband. Everything he did (or didn’t do) was wrong. Like everything. Even buying me beautiful jewellery for my birthday was wrong.
I suddenly realised that something was up – seriously who moans about a beautiful birthday present?
Then it hit me – everything in my life was going so well, and clearly I was not comfortable with this. On some level I must have felt the need to ‘break’ something, by being a total witch to my poor husband. Thankfully I realised, issued a huge apology and all was sorted. It was also a useful reminder about how self sabotage can rear its ugly head when you are least expecting it.
For me it all comes back to fear (and this is the best way to move on from these hindering behaviours).
😱 Fear of failure
😨 Fear of success
😮 Fear of judgement
The fear of failure could have you working on your website for 6 months before ever pushing ‘live’. The fear of judgement might have you reluctant to share your articles or social media posts.
In this case for me there must have been a fear of success creeping in. That old programming around – ‘it’s too good to be true’, or ‘it won’t last’ reappeared. These days I’m delighted when I uncover a new limiting belief because I know I can clear it out and move on.
Uncovering old mental programming and replacing it with new helpful belief systems is a big part of The Expert Academy – my transformational 12 month training program for equine practitioners. If you’d like to learn more about this check out the details here.